How do you validate your beliefs
Depending on the weather forecast, you’re probably pretty confident that you’ll see the sun in the next few days. Because you believe that, you might plan for activities that are best done in the light of day, and so you validate your beliefs.
Why are you so confident? It’s likely because you’ve seen the sun out many days of your life, and you can predict that it will happen again. This may apply more to residents of Reykjavik, Iceland, than those in Tucson, Arizona. But, the sun would still rise.
Can we agree that the presence of the sun is a likelihood?
Yet some people hold beliefs that are not supported the facts around them. These beliefs then lead them to behave in ways that don’t serve them well in the long run. Our beliefs are powerful drivers in our lives.
For example, I’ve been a business traveler for over 25 years. For many of those years, one of my beliefs was “I work hard. I love food. I can eat anything I want to while on the road.” I lived out my beliefs by ordering cheeseburgers, fries, ice cream, fried chicken, and more.
Then my doctor would say, “You’re too heavy and too fat. You’re killing yourself.” She was right. I’d start exercising more or eating healthier foods—for a while. Then my true beliefs would take over and I’d eat unhealthy foods and gain weight again.
I had to change my belief since it clearly wasn’t working for me. My belief originally was: “I love food and work hard so I can eat what I want.” I made a simple but significant change to “I work hard. I love food. I can eat anything that fuels my best self while on the road.” Now, more often than not, you’ll see me eating lean proteins and vegetables, very little dairy, nothing fried, and nothing “white” (flours and starches).
The result? I’ve lost 25 pounds and kept it off. I wear clothes in sizes I hadn’t seen since college. I’ve had to get belts, rings, watches, etc. resized smaller. I feel great. My blood panels are better than they’ve been in decades.
The same thing holds true for my clients. Some of their beliefs and resulting behaviors serve them very well. Some do not.
Specifically, most business leaders believe that their job is to manage processes and results. So, that’s what they do. They spend all of their time on results and very little time – if any, on the work environment and organizational culture. They aren’t believing that culture is that important, when instead, it drives everything that happens, good or bad.
An unhealthy culture causes people to serve themselves, not others. They withhold information. They bully others. Everyone is miserable.
So, my first step with any client is to educate leaders to change their beliefs about the impact of culture on business success and take responsibility to create a healthy workplace culture.
I have to help develop and if necessary, change their beliefs and to own that it is their job to build a high performing, values-aligned culture daily.
Validate your beliefs. Find indisputable facts about your reality and decide what is really true. Change your beliefs when it’s clear that your behaviors do not serve you, or others well.