Who says conflict is a bad thing? Here are 3 ways conflict can help you grow personally and professionally:
- Conflict can make you rethink your priorities: When you’re in disagreement with someone, take a step back. Go over your interests and what is it that you really want to achieve. Is it really worth it? If so – why? If not, why are you continuing it?
- Conflict brings patterns of behaviours to the fore: When you’re in disagreement and you’re going through the usual tit-for-tat, my-idea-is-better-than-yours-because. You get used to fighting. You can’t change the other person but you can examine and change yourself.
When you take a moment to reflect on your interactions, you’ll likely notice some patterns of behaviour. Something may be triggering you to enter battle mode. You may be doing something to provoke certain reactions in others.
By paying attention to how you’re interacting with others, you’re creating opportunities for you to develop skills. You’re able to alter your behaviours. You’re more aware of how you’re communicating and can intentionally change your style.
- Conflicts identify weak points: Often people enter conflicts because they feel threatened or vulnerable. A natural defensive reaction is to cast the attention away from the weakness. Instead try very hard to work at the weakness. Learn new skills. Expand your understanding. Meet new people. It’s not easy but the results are worth it.
When you give yourself time to reflect, conflict can indicate areas in which you can develop and strengthen. Whenever you expand your skill set and understanding of a situation, there is greater likelihood for mastery and innovation.
Pick one of the three suggestions and see how it works for you. Experiment with the other two options. Compare how you feel with each option. Then let me know which one works best for you.
This was the second posting in a blog series. Click here to see the first post.