One Single Habit You Must Have To Change Your Life
You have probably heard this phrase numerous times before; ‘you should be more positive’, or ‘don’t be so negative’. Though these phrases are somewhat cliche they still hold true, as keeping a good mental attitude is what will help you change your life for the better.
Before we go any further. I want to first talk a little bit about the difficulties we all face in life. As you are well aware, life is full of trials and tribulations. As you keep working towards achieving your goals you will encounter many obstacles, and I mean, MANY obstacles. This is OK, though, because the right mental attitude opens your view to seeing those obstacles in a new light.
However, there is a catch to this, you must maintain a positive state of mind. I know this is easier to said than done. Nevertheless, in those moments of weakness when you are about to give up to the negativity, one has to realize that the only way is forward. Whether that ‘forward’ is going to change your life the way you want it is up to you
A good mental attitude will change your life
Hence the importance of having a good mental attitude. Realizing that no matter what you do in life, you will always encounter an obstacle, but, when you have a positive state of mind; obstacles become easy to overcome, and you will regard them as opportunities to better yourself.
In order to do this, I want you to treat each thought as an offering to either accept or reject. If it is a negative thought reject it if it is a positive thought accept it. So, does this mean that we have to constantly monitor our thoughts, and reject any negativity the mind throws at us? The answer is Yes, and this is the very habit you must nurture in order to positively change your life.
I know it seems like a very daunting task; however, just like anything else in life, with practice this habit will become automatic. Furthermore, once you start creating the habit of monitoring your thoughts, it will become much easier to have a positive mental attitude. Usually, this is a process that takes at least three months, though is normal if it takes longer.
An unexpected example showing this state of mind can be found in the story of Arnold Schwarzenegger, whom believe or not, was ridiculed at the time when he began acting, and nobody ever thought he could become a famous actor. Whether you like the man or not, one has to concede that Arnold faced many obstacles in his life, and despite that, he was able to become successful as an actor, and even ended up becoming the governor of California.
Now let me ask you, would you have given up if you were in Arnie’s position before he was famous? Would you have quit after facing so many discouraging situations? To put it in his own words; “strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is a strength”. Moreover, this kind of thinking seeks for the positive even in the worst of the situation, thereby giving you the momentum to push through with a positive state of mind, while not getting consumed by the negativity.
Become an actor, not a reactor
By doing the exercise I gave you of rejecting and accepting your thoughts you will slowly start to become an actor in your life and not a reactor. What I mean by that is that most people react to life, instead of acting upon it. Everything they do is a reaction to something, instead of acting towards something.
This is because they are not grounded, and have not found their balance. To be grounded is to be balanced; thus, being able to act, not react. Once you’re grounded it is much easier to monitor any negative thoughts you get, and you will easily handle any negative situation, as you keep on going forward to positively change your life (acting). Whereas those who do not have the right mental attitude will keep on wandering through life thinking why everything goes wrong, as they always seem to be the victim of something (reacting to life).
So, even though phrases such as “don’t be so negative” or ” you gotta be more positive”, might sound a little bit cliche. They do hold profound truths that can positively change your life. Why don’t you give it a try and see how it goes? I would love to hear the results you get from this practice alone and to see the positives changes in your life.
Born and raised in Venezuela, Nico is currently travelling around the world, teaching yoga, learning music and living life to the fullest. Nico has studied yoga since 2012 and has began teaching this year. He draws much inspiration from teachers like Sharath, and Alan Watts. Nico is also a passionate musician having studied classical guitar and currently studying Flamenco guitar.