When you feel discouraged
We all have once in our lives felt discouraged or given up for the time being. Some experience it more than once and so it’s often a repeat experience. How you manage yourself when you feel discouraged helps you to learn more about you. It’s important to view it from a learning stance, so you can find your way out of discouragement in a lasting way.
When you want something to happen and you try your best to make it happen but it does not work out or did not go as you planned or dreamed it would, we tend to give up and build up the walls around us to stay discouraged as to not try again as we think we will fail or feel what is the use of trying because we’re in the discouraged mode.
No matter what you do or what dreams and ideas you have; some people will criticise, insult, ignore and reject you or your ideas. That can lead to you feeling discouraged to continue.
A learning opportunity
Alternatively, instead of giving up when you feel discouraged, treat it as a learning experience. You will learn how to deal with different types of people. You may learn how certain people think. It also gives you an opportunity to evaluate and consider whether you want toxic people in your life. After all, do you want to expose yourself continuously to people who will bring you down?
Rethink your discouragement
In order to rescue yourself from those feelings of discouragement, here are 5 tips which will help you rethink your thoughts which will help to heal those negative emotions.
1. Take a break
Take a little break and relax by doing something completely different from what you were trying to do as that will clear your mind or could even give you different or more ideas.
2. Refocus on your purpose
Clear your mind and remind yourself of your overall purpose. Why is it important to you? What reasons do you have to find a new way through?
3. Discover what works
Remember similar situations in the past or times when others were successful. Identify times when you overcame adversity and how empowering that was. Find out what works for you and what does not work, and develop strategies to deal with those times you need to be your own successful cheerleader.
4. What can you do differently next time
From what you learnt and experienced, how can I modify my next attempt? What resources or plans will you put in place so next time you are in a stronger and more hopeful position.
5. What resources do you need
What resourced or skills can you draw upon to help you to get what you want and need?
A different outcome
When you keep doing the exact same thing over and over again but hoping for a different result, it will always lead you to the same feelings of discouragement and failure. To avoid repeating this experience, you must try a different way of thinking and act in a way which gives you a better result. The trick is to keep going until you find a way that works for you. Once you find that winning formula then apply it whenever you meet a similar situation. There is no time frame as it’s never too late to get out of discouraged mode.
Business consultant, entrepreneur, founder of GNCORP.