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100 Reasons to Live From Your Higher Self

When you live from your higher self, it has the possibility of transforming your life.  Here are 100 ways living in this way creates a life of love, joy, peace and connection.  I wish this for you. 

Christina   ♥️

Reason 1 of 100: You stop being your own harshest critic. “That has probably been one of the biggest changes in my life. I am kinder to myself.”
1. You stop being your own harshest critic.
Reason 2 of 100: Life feels lighter. “I laugh more easily, take fewer things personally, and spend less time caught up in thoughts that once consumed me.”
2. Life feels lighter.
Reason 3 of 100: A bad day no longer becomes a story you live inside. “Difficult things still happen. I still feel hurt, frightened, angry or disappointed. But I am less likely to build an entire story around them and to live inside it.”
3. A bad day no longer becomes a story you live inside.
Reason 4 of 100: You discover there’s more good in us than you realised. “I believe there is something better in us, both individually and collectively, and that we can draw on it far more often than we realise.”
4. You discover there’s more good in us than you realised.
Reason 5 of 100: When you lose your way, you recognise it sooner, and you know you can choose again.
5. When you lose your way, you recognise it sooner, and you know you can choose again.
Reason 6 of 100: You can own a mistake without beating yourself up.
6. You can own a mistake without beating yourself up.
Reason 7 of 100: You can still set boundaries, disagree, protect yourself and make difficult decisions without losing sight of your own worth, or anyone else’s.
7. You can still set boundaries, disagree, protect yourself and make difficult decisions without losing sight of your own worth, or anyone else’s.
Reason 8 of 100: Fear stops making your big decisions. “It is the version of yourself that makes decisions aligned with your deepest values rather than with your immediate fears.”
8. Fear stops making your big decisions.
Reason 9 of 100: You become more of who you already are. “You are not creating a new version of yourself. You are uncovering more of the person who has always been there.”
9. You become more of who you already are.
Reason 10 of 100: You stop saying things you regret in the heat of the moment.
10. You stop saying things you regret in the heat of the moment.
Reason 11 of 100: You can start right where you are. “An ordinary life is not an obstacle to this journey. It is the classroom.”
11. You can start right where you are.
Reason 12 of 100: Feelings you’ve lived with for years stop defining you. “I still feel anxious at times, but it has stopped being a permanent condition and has become an ordinary reaction to particular things.”
12. Feelings you’ve lived with for years stop defining you.
Reason 13 of 100: You can feel the pain without adding the story. “Pain is part of life. Suffering often stems from how we think about pain, what we believe it means, and the stories we build around it.”
13. You can feel the pain without adding the story.
Reason 14 of 100: Mistakes become something to learn from, not proof that something is wrong with you.
14. Mistakes become something to learn from, not proof that something is wrong with you.
Reason 15 of 100: You are already worthy. Without a self-improvement plan, without earning it first, without becoming a better person.
15. You are already worthy. Without a self-improvement plan, without earning it first, without becoming a better person.
Reason 16 of 100: Nothing is wasted. “All of it is curriculum.”
16. Nothing is wasted.
Reason 17 of 100: You can accept help without feeling you owe something back.
17. You can accept help without feeling you owe something back.
Reason 18 of 100: You can value the connection more than the argument.
18. You can value the connection more than the argument.
Reason 19 of 100: Calmer doesn’t mean duller. “I thought peace was the absence of life. I have since discovered that it is the foundation for living life more fully.”
19. Calmer doesn’t mean duller.
Reason 20 of 100: You stop being your own harshest critic. “Learning to be my own friend changed everything.”
20. You stop being your own harshest critic.
Reason 21 of 100: What you’ve been looking for was there all along. “I did not need to find something new. I needed to reconnect with something that had always been there, but that I had stopped listening to.”
21. What you’ve been looking for was there all along.
Reason 22 of 100: Your relationship with yourself improves, and every other relationship feels it.
22. Your relationship with yourself improves, and every other relationship feels it.
Reason 23 of 100: You let more go, and hold on to fewer grievances.
23. You let more go, and hold on to fewer grievances.
Reason 24 of 100: You learn to trust yourself again. “Rebuilding that trust takes time, and it begins in an ordinary way: by listening to ourselves again in small things before we try it with the big ones.”
24. You learn to trust yourself again.
Reason 25 of 100: Space between you and your thoughts. Space to pause, space to notice, space to choose.
25. Space between you and your thoughts. Space to pause, space to notice, space to choose.
Reason 26 of 100: You don’t lose yourself when a role ends. “It took me a while to realise that although the role was gone, I was still there.”
26. You don’t lose yourself when a role ends.
Reason 27 of 100: No more being rushed into decisions. “Your Higher Self rarely needs to rush you.”
27. No more being rushed into decisions.
Reason 28 of 100: A problem is just a problem. It doesn’t get to say who you are. “The difference is that we are dealing with the problem rather than letting it decide how we feel about ourselves.”
28. A problem is just a problem. It doesn’t get to say who you are.
Reason 29 of 100: A wiser voice that is always on your side. “It would never make me wrong. It didn’t demand that I sacrifice myself for everybody else. It only ever found ways to support me.”
29. A wiser voice that is always on your side.
Reason 30 of 100: You only need to see the next step.
30. You only need to see the next step.
Reason 31 of 100: Fear doesn’t get to make the decisions any more. “Fear still shows up; it never entirely stops. What changes is that it no longer makes the decisions.”
31. Fear doesn’t get to make the decisions any more.
Reason 32 of 100: The habits you thought were fixed start to loosen. “But what if the things we call “just the way I am” are not who we are at all?”
32. The habits you thought were fixed start to loosen.
Reason 33 of 100: It’s kinder than you fear. “Almost every pattern I’ve examined closely has turned out to be less damning than the story I’d been telling myself about it.”
33. It’s kinder than you fear.
Reason 34 of 100: Strength can also mean knowing when to go. “I was strong, but I was using that strength to endure situations I needed to leave.”
34. Strength can also mean knowing when to go.
Reason 35 of 100: You go after what genuinely matters to you.
35. You go after what genuinely matters to you.
Reason 36 of 100: To begin, you don’t need to have it all worked out. Just a little willingness.
36. To begin, you don’t need to have it all worked out. Just a little willingness.
Reason 37 of 100: Old conclusions don’t get to write your future. “My future did not have to keep being shaped by conclusions I had reached before I was old enough to understand them.”
37. Old conclusions don’t get to write your future.
Reason 38 of 100: You stop carrying the whole problem. “You are only looking for the part that belongs to you, because that is the part you can change.”
38. You stop carrying the whole problem.
Reason 39 of 100: Change stops feeling like pushing uphill. “This time I didn’t have to force myself to do it, because I was no longer doing it against a belief that said it wouldn’t make any difference.”
39. Change stops feeling like pushing uphill.
Reason 40 of 100: Life still hurts sometimes. You just suffer less.
40. Life still hurts sometimes. You just suffer less.
Reason 41 of 100: You can say no without making anyone the villain. “We can still say no, leave, challenge wrongdoing or protect ourselves; the difference is that we do not have to dehumanise another person to do so.”
41. You can say no without making anyone the villain.
Reason 42 of 100: A disagreement doesn’t have to be a contest. “I am quicker to ask what is going on for someone before deciding how I view them.”
42. A disagreement doesn’t have to be a contest.
Reason 43 of 100: Connection is something you bring, not something you chase. “We begin to experience connection as something we bring to a relationship, rather than something we have to persuade another person to give us.”
43. Connection is something you bring, not something you chase.
Reason 44 of 100: See the best in people, and watch them grow into it. “When I reflected the person I believed they were capable of being, they wanted to become that version of themselves.”
44. See the best in people, and watch them grow into it.
Reason 45 of 100: Boundaries get easier to set, and to keep.
45. Boundaries get easier to set, and to keep.
Reason 46 of 100: Good boundaries bring you closer, not further apart. “This is why healthy boundaries create more connection, not less.”
46. Good boundaries bring you closer, not further apart.
Reason 47 of 100: You can forgive and still keep your distance. “Forgiveness is about what we let go of. Boundaries are what we set to distance ourselves from behaviours that do not work for us.”
47. You can forgive and still keep your distance.
Reason 48 of 100: Peace. “Peace comes when we stop adding fear, judgement and resistance to whatever is already happening.”
48. Peace.
Reason 49 of 100: Generosity starts to come naturally. “Sometimes the most generous thing we can offer another person is to see the best in them until they are able to see it for themselves.”
49. Generosity starts to come naturally.
Reason 50 of 100: You see the people in your past with more compassion. “It does not rewrite the past. It changes the way we see the people who were in it.”
50. You see the people in your past with more compassion.
Reason 51 of 100: You can’t change the whole world. You can change how you show up in it. “I cannot change the world on my own, but I can change the way I show up in it.”
51. You can’t change the whole world. You can change how you show up in it.
Reason 52 of 100: People leave your company feeling a little lighter. “Somebody leaves our company feeling a little more accepted, optimistic, or able to be themselves.”
52. People leave your company feeling a little lighter.
Reason 53 of 100: Nobody has to lose for you to win. “The difference is that somebody else doesn’t have to lose for me to feel I have won.”
53. Nobody has to lose for you to win.
Reason 54 of 100: You remember why: why you started, why it mattered, why you care.
54. You remember why: why you started, why it mattered, why you care.
Reason 55 of 100: Check the wall before you climb the ladder. “But it is worth checking the wall before we spend years climbing it.”
55. Check the wall before you climb the ladder.
Reason 56 of 100: You only have to change your own world. “That is a relief rather than a limitation, because it leaves us with the only part we can actually do anything about.”
56. You only have to change your own world.
Reason 57 of 100: You let the people you love find their own answers.
57. You let the people you love find their own answers.
Reason 58 of 100: Your acceptance helps people feel safe. “Most of us can tell when someone accepts us without needing us to change, and in that company we feel safe enough to find our own way.”
58. Your acceptance helps people feel safe.
Reason 59 of 100: Things go better when nobody needs to win. “The conversation changes because people are no longer trying to prove who is right.”
59. Things go better when nobody needs to win.
Reason 60 of 100: You don’t have to wait for a crisis to learn. “What has changed is that I no longer wait for a crisis before asking whether there is something I could see differently.”
60. You don’t have to wait for a crisis to learn.
Reason 61 of 100: You learn from what goes right too, not only from what goes wrong.
61. You learn from what goes right too, not only from what goes wrong.
Reason 62 of 100: Life stops feeling like a punishment. “There is no punishment, just living with the consequences, which either work for you or don’t.”
62. Life stops feeling like a punishment.
Reason 63 of 100: You don’t need an explanation before you can live with it. “Eventually, I stopped trying to find an explanation and realised I didn’t need one before I could begin to live with what had happened.”
63. You don’t need an explanation before you can live with it.
Reason 64 of 100: You stop carrying what was never yours. “But other people’s choices are not mine. Neither are circumstances I could not control, nor are events I could not reasonably have predicted.”
64. You stop carrying what was never yours.
Reason 65 of 100: There is always something small you can do.
65. There is always something small you can do.
Reason 66 of 100: You can choose how you see what happens. “Discovering I could choose a different interpretation was one of the most useful things I have learned.”
66. You can choose how you see what happens.
Reason 67 of 100: See someone differently and the relationship changes too. “Changing her thinking changed what she brought to the relationship, and the relationship changed with it.”
67. See someone differently and the relationship changes too.
Reason 68 of 100: Whatever happens, you can always choose again. “The most useful thing I have realised is that neither thought system traps us. Whatever happens, we can choose again.”
68. Whatever happens, you can always choose again.
Reason 69 of 100: A thought is only a thought until you believe it. “Living differently becomes possible when we notice a thought without automatically believing it.”
69. A thought is only a thought until you believe it.
Reason 70 of 100: Other people’s judgements stop being verdicts on your worth. “His employer had still treated him badly, but he stopped seeing their decision as a verdict on his worth.”
70. Other people’s judgements stop being verdicts on your worth.
Reason 71 of 100: You stop reacting to stories you made up.
71. You stop reacting to stories you made up.
Reason 72 of 100: Less drama. More peace. “What feels flat at first will eventually lead to peace and, at the very least, glimpses of inner joy.”
72. Less drama. More peace.
Reason 73 of 100: Your emotions become a compass, not a problem. “They can help us recognise when our thinking is taking us further from peace and when we are moving back towards it.”
73. Your emotions become a compass, not a problem.
Reason 74 of 100: Even a painful encounter can become part of your healing. “Instead of remaining only a victim of a case of mistaken identity, I could use the experience to uncover beliefs I hadn’t fully realised I was holding.”
74. Even a painful encounter can become part of your healing.
Reason 75 of 100: You can be kind and still say no, still hold your ground, without being a pushover.
75. You can be kind and still say no, still hold your ground, without being a pushover.
Reason 76 of 100: You learn to tell guilt from genuine intuition. “Her anxiety was reflecting what she believed leaving would mean, rather than telling her to stay.”
76. You learn to tell guilt from genuine intuition.
Reason 77 of 100: Let go of the suffering. Keep the love. “We can let go of punishing ourselves and still love just as much.”
77. Let go of the suffering. Keep the love.
Reason 78 of 100: Your peace comes back into your own hands. “If somebody else has to change, apologise or behave differently before we can feel better, our peace remains in their hands. Owning our feelings brings that back to us.”
78. Your peace comes back into your own hands.
Reason 79 of 100: Even in grief, there can be moments of relief. “It lifted my spirits, even if only for a few moments at a time.”
79. Even in grief, there can be moments of relief.
Reason 80 of 100: Change what you bring, and the relationship changes.
80. Change what you bring, and the relationship changes.
Reason 81 of 100: You stop being certain about things that never happened. “Nothing I had spent the previous evening being certain about had happened at all.”
81. You stop being certain about things that never happened.
Reason 82 of 100: A sense of purpose that doesn’t hang on a job title, that survives a role ending, and that is yours to keep.
82. A sense of purpose that doesn’t hang on a job title, that survives a role ending, and that is yours to keep.
Reason 83 of 100: Old patterns can end when you stop playing your part. “When we stop playing our usual part in the old pattern, things can change.”
83. Old patterns can end when you stop playing your part.
Reason 84 of 100: You decide who you want to be in a relationship.
84. You decide who you want to be in a relationship.
Reason 85 of 100: You can accept someone’s choices and make your own. “She accepted his choice without trying to change it and made her own.”
85. You can accept someone’s choices and make your own.
Reason 86 of 100: Knowing someone’s story makes forgiveness easier. “Compassion for her made forgiveness much easier.”
86. Knowing someone’s story makes forgiveness easier.
Reason 87 of 100: You learn to separate love from control. “We can love someone without approving of everything they do, and without requiring them to behave as we wish before we allow ourselves to choose a loving response.”
87. You learn to separate love from control.
Reason 88 of 100: Your experience of a relationship can still change. “As we change what we bring to a relationship, the relationship itself can change too. Even when it doesn’t, our experience of it can.”
88. Your experience of a relationship can still change.
Reason 89 of 100: Love is not something you have to earn. “Love is not something we earn or become worthy of. It is already part of us.”
89. Love is not something you have to earn.
Reason 90 of 100: When you’re stuck, there’s one question to come back to: what would love do here?
90. When you’re stuck, there’s one question to come back to: what would love do here?
Reason 91 of 100: The need to compare yourself with others softens. “The need to compare, compete or seek approval softens, because our worth no longer depends on external validation.”
91. The need to compare yourself with others softens.
Reason 92 of 100: You stop searching for love and start expressing it. “As we begin to live from our Higher Self, we gradually find ourselves expressing love in our relationships rather than searching for it.”
92. You stop searching for love and start expressing it.
Reason 93 of 100: Your kindness reaches further than you know. “When we choose understanding over judgement, forgiveness over grievance, or simply act with kindness, it changes how we meet the people around us. They carry that experience into their own relationships too.”
93. Your kindness reaches further than you know.
Reason 94 of 100: Your love leaves people freer, not smaller.
94. Your love leaves people freer, not smaller.
Reason 95 of 100: You stop keeping score. “We stop tracking who contacted whom, who made the effort last time, or whether we are getting enough back.”
95. You stop keeping score.
Reason 96 of 100: Much less to worry about.
96. Much less to worry about.
Reason 97 of 100: A mistake is something you did, not proof of who you are. “What changes is that we no longer treat the mistake as evidence of our worth.”
97. A mistake is something you did, not proof of who you are.
Reason 98 of 100: You can receive kindness simply, with gratitude.
98. You can receive kindness simply, with gratitude.
Reason 99 of 100: You remember who you are. “The journey has never been about becoming someone different. It has always been about remembering who you are.”
99. You remember who you are.
Reason 100 of 100: You suffer a little less, and you’re a good deal kinder to yourself. “I hope you have found something practical here that helps you suffer a little less and be a good deal kinder to yourself.”
100. You suffer a little less, and you’re a good deal kinder to yourself.

All 100 reasons come from my book, Living From Your Higher Self: Uncovering Your True Self, available in paperback and Kindle on Amazon.