Overview
Change often feels uncomfortable, yet staying in your comfort zone keeps life on a repetitive loop. By recognising that your expectations shape your reality, you gain the power to rewrite your story. Shifting focus, raising awareness, and practising new beliefs can transform experiences and create meaningful, lasting change.
Introduction
Making a change in your life can feel hard. Adopting the status quo is often the easiest course of action. However, there is a price to pay for remaining in your comfort zone, which, in reality, means you are expecting the same type of day with the same routine. In other words, you could well be experiencing Groundhog Day.
When you realise that life is your creation and your inner programming is creating your life, you have a choice to make. That choice might be to stay in the zone, or it might be to move to something different. There is no right way or wrong way. There is only what works for you or what doesn’t.
When life isn’t working for you, it’s time to become aware of what you are expecting to show up in your life, and if you’re expecting people and situations that don’t work, then it’s time to change your expectations. This takes effort and discomfort as you lift yourself out of your comfort zone of unconscious creation.
Changing Your Expectations
Here is a straightforward methodology to adjust your expectations, which can help you raise self-awareness and make positive changes.
1. Identify what’s not working
Identify an area of your life that you would like to change, such as the quality of a relationship or a particular lifestyle situation.
2. Write it down
Write down how that relationship or situation is now. For example, my relationship with …. is sometimes hurtful, and we often argue, which makes me feel unhappy. Or I never seem to have sufficient money to do the things I want.
Recognise that the story you are telling yourself about the person or situation is actually describing your expectation, and that when you realise you get what you expect, you have to change your mind for things to be different.
3. Begin a different story
Begin telling a different story, and what you are expecting, and your experience will change. It would be best to make small changes at first to build momentum. For example, you might say that my relationship with …. has been hurtful in the past; however, I won’t focus on that. Instead, I’m going to look for those times when we get along and begin to appreciate and bring those aspects more into my experience. I have had financial difficulties in the past. Still, I’m open and willing to learn how to manage my money better and find ways to increase my income, so that eventually, money flows easily into my life.
Repeat these new stories every day, even if you are experiencing the old expectation. Look for small changes and celebrate when you start to notice them. As your experience changes, then strengthen your new story.
4. Be the change
Remember, the change is within you, not the person or the situation. As you change your story and strengthen your belief in your new story, your new expectations must materialise. The change will be in what you focus on and what you experience, rather than the person or the situation changes. There is a subtle difference.
5. Be Open To how
If you believe you can experience something different, you will. However, you must not get hung up on the way your experience will materialise. This can be the hard part.
We may find that the person with whom we have a problematic relationship moves out of our lives to be replaced by someone who meets our new expectations. However, it could also be that the existing person responds positively to your new energy or expectation.
If money is going to flow more quickly, then it can be that you get a raise in your existing job, or it could be that a new job or business opportunity comes your way.
The trick here is not to be attached to how your new expectation will materialise in your life.
