One of the most futile methods of trying to achieve success is when you think and react through your ego self. When you are not conscious of how your higher self works, then you might be chasing success by hustling harder, planning more or trying to control the outcome. Sometimes this works, eventually. However, the cost is considerable in terms of time and effort, including failed attempts and frustration. True success is more easily achieved when you think differently and become conscious of your inherent power. Your inner power is your higher self. It is the wise inner presence that sees the big picture and can guide you calmly and with clarity. Here, we look at how you can make life easier when you align with your higher self to achieve success. When you align and connect with your higher self, you increase your odds of success in ways that feel more natural, intuitive, and fulfilling.
Success From the Inside Out
When you think about what you want to achieve and it comes from your higher self, it does not entertain fear or doubt. Because we often believe automatically from the ego, our aspirations can be dampened because fear or doubt come to the fore. However, if you recognise that when you are experiencing these limiting emotions, you know it is your ego that is in charge at those times, you can quickly set them aside. Fear and doubt will get in the way if you believe those thoughts and attach yourself to them.
When you align with your higher self to achieve success, you are also aligning with your deepest values. You experience inner peace and a quiet mind. You can feel the difference between higher self thinking and ego thinking because with the former, you recognise you are inspired, focused, and supported.
Becoming Aware of Self-Sabotage
Dr Bruce Lipton contends that around 95% of your mind is unconscious. This means you can self-sabotage without even understanding why you are. If you ever find yourself acting and wondering why you are behaving or choosing paths that do not serve you, it is often because your unconscious mind is the driver. When you observe this happening, you need to align with your higher self. This involves bringing light to these unconscious patterns and asking to become aware of what drives you internally.
I once coached a man who was despairing because his second marriage was in ruins. He loved his wife, but continued to act in ways that drove her away. While discussing why he might do this, he said, “I don’t understand why I am sabotaging this. I believe that marriage is for life, and that once married, you should stay married”. Once I pointed out to him that he had been married before and that it had not resulted in a lasting marriage, the reason for his sabotaging his second marriage became abundantly clear. In essence, he unconsciously believed he should be married to his first wife and didn’t believe he should have another marriage. The work then was to dismantle this limiting belief, which was sabotaging his second marriage.
7 Ways to Align with Your Higher Self for Success
To align with your higher self for success, you must bring light to these unconscious patterns. Becoming aware of what drives you internally helps you make conscious, empowered choices that lead to better outcomes. This can take some work, but when you understand the following principles, your unconscious can become conscious, and you can increase your odds of success.
1. Set Intentions that Reflect Your Soul
Setting an intention is crucial for aligning with your higher self to achieve success. Setting intentions with the ego will more often than not backfire on you. Acting out of fear, revenge, or similar energies will bring you more of the same. When we set an intention from the soul, from our higher self, then we are co-creating with the power of love. Your subconscious will then help you identify the people, opportunities and energy that bring what you intend into being. Dr Wayne Dyer’s book The Power of Intention explores this step, recognising that the intention you set to your plans aligns with universal energy, which is where the real power resides.
2. Let Go of Attachment to Outcomes
When you are attached to achieving a specific outcome, you set up an energy that stands in resistance to allowing what you want to materialise in your life. You must be easy about whether your desire manifests or not. This creates the state of allowing, because you stop thinking about what could go wrong or the consequences of not getting what you want. When you let go of an attachment to the outcome, you align with your higher self to achieve success. It does not mean you give up. It allows you to be at peace, and then the universe is free to allow your desires to unfold. Once you let go of attachment to an outcome, you will be able to develop greater trust in the process and open up to new possibilities and solutions.
3. Take Inspired Action Within a Flexible Strategy
A notable example of this is the shift from traditional project management to the Agile methodology. In the former, there was a fixed goal with specific steps to achieve it. The Agile methodology sets a desired outcome, but the method of achieving it is not fixed. It is a flexible approach which allows project managers to learn as they go and adapt as their understanding grows. It also allows new information to emerge, which might inform their strategy and the steps to achieving the outcome. And so it’s with individuals: when you set out where you want to go, it’s like setting your GPS or Sat nav, then you allow inspired action or the instructions that come from the Sat Nav to get you there. This means you do not need to know the “how” of what you want to achieve, which is extremely powerful.
4. Face Your Fears with Compassion
We are human beings, and fear is, unfortunately, a feature of our ego and psyche. When we undertake new intentions and reach for outcomes we want, fear is often not far away. However, fear need not derail your efforts. If you can view fear as a learning opportunity, it opens you up to examine the thoughts that are creating the fear. You often find out where you need to grow further or think differently. When you understand that fear is not something to shy away from, nor is it a permanent state, then you can allow fear to come up. Observe the fear and ask it what it is telling you. Ask, “What is this fear trying to teach me?” Facing fear helps dissolve its control and builds strength from within.
5. Create a Loving Contingency Plan
There are different schools of thought about having a “Plan B”. Some people believe that accepting that you might not manifest what you want is a defeatist attitude. However, my thinking has shifted on this. A Plan B helps you to come to terms with the consequences of what might happen if it all doesn’t work out. It helps you reach peace and therefore a state of allowing. I once received a job offer for a project I had intended to get on, and I was delighted. I duly gave my notice at my current job. Then the job holder of the new job started vacillating around start dates, and it became quite uncertain as to when everything might begin. I unburdened my frustration to a friend, expressing my fear that I was giving up a secure job and that the new opportunity risked disappearing. She told me to stop worrying and that if the new job didn’t materialise, then I would go and get another one! Simple, I know, but my fear was preventing me from seeing this “Plan B”. Once I had this in mind I was able to let go of my fear.
6. Be Your Own Best Friend
This is a piece of advice I find myself repeating in nearly every situation when I explain how to be in touch with your higher self. This is because your higher self is your best friend! That negative critical voice is your ego, and you should not listen to it. Whenever you are undecided about a course of action, I assure you, your ego will speak first. Gently put your ego to one side and ask your inner best friend to give you the inspired advice you need. Be kind and compassionate to yourself. Forgive yourself and be your own cheerleader. The more you support yourself from within, the more able you are to align with your higher self to achieve success.
7. Learn to Love the Journey
We can become fixated on achieving the intention and goal we set out on. Letting go, as outlined earlier, is essential. However, the most effective way to align with your higher self and achieve success is to bring that energy to the journey. Success is achieved in how you show up and how willing you are to learn along the way. It’s about acknowledging your growth and how aligned you are internally. It is the relationships you forge and what you learn from them. If your journey is bringing you closer to loving yourself and others more, then success is pretty unavoidable. It just might not look like you originally intended.
Staying Connected to Your Higher Self
Many factors might impact your chances of achieving success, but you can increase the odds by staying connected to your higher self and following the principles outlined above.
