To lead well, engage your people, and get the best out of them, you must be able to lead from your higher self. If you suspect you might not be leading from your higher self, then you have no chance of being a leader who inspires and helps your team excel. As a leader, you have to ask yourself, “Is your ego in charge?”
In my leadership development model, I set out four characteristics that create a leader who operates from their higher self.  These are:
- Being connected to your higher self
- Unity Consciousness
- Self Awareness
- Inspiring others
A leader who instils these characteristics must learn to let go of the ego thought system. Otherwise, the ego can be in charge and running the show without being aware.
The Ego Thought system
Many leaders do not have sufficient self-awareness to realise that they and everyone around them operate from two thought systems. The higher self and the ego thought system. When a leader operates from the ego thought system, without doubt, the internal compass is geared to three central states these are:
- Fear
- Lack of self-love
- Guilt
This might surprise you, but these states are mostly unconscious, and so often, we don’t know that we are acting on a thought system that is limiting our ability to embrace life, take risks, or be open. However, if you are not achieving success, if you are not inspiring your team, or if you lack conviction or confidence about your leadership skills, then very likely, your ego is in charge.
When the ego is in charge
So, how do you know when your ego is in charge? Unless you have a great deal of self-awareness. Unless you understand what unity consciousness means, you likely don’t. However, even without this level of consciousness, on a level, you always know. You know, you don’t feel good when you lead with your ego.
Leading from your higher self
You probably do lead from your higher self sometimes. There will be times when you are in the flow, feel good, and know just what to do.  But if you can’t choose to be in your higher self, you probably need to raise your consciousness. You can do this by understanding your true nature and stripping away much of the programming the world chooses to give us.  The beginnings of being in your higher self are found in soft skills. Then, as your awareness grows, so does your confidence. Suddenly, you are confident about the decisions you have to make. You’re aware of the choices you have when responding to any situation. You are inspiring and get the best out of people.
17 Ego-Driven Behaviours And What To Do Instead
Here, I outline some of the most common ego-driven behaviours, describing their impact on the team, determining whether your ego is in charge, and suggesting what to do instead.
1. Prioritising Personal Recognition Over Team Success
When leaders prioritise recognition, they seek individual accolades and praise over collective achievements. This often manifests as publicly showcasing personal contributions while downplaying team efforts. Such behaviour can create resentment, erode trust, and decrease morale, as team members feel undervalued and overlooked. Over time, this undermines collaboration and stifles innovation, as employees may disengage or avoid going the extra mile. By tapping into their higher self, leaders can shift focus to collective wins, celebrating team achievements, and promoting a culture of shared success. This builds trust, motivates teams, and creates a more inclusive and high-performing environment.
2. Being Overly Defensive When Receiving Feedback
Leaders with inflated egos often react defensively to feedback, viewing it as a personal attack rather than an opportunity for growth. They may become dismissive, argumentative, or justify their actions rather than listening and reflecting. This behaviour creates a culture of fear and discourages open communication. Team members may become reluctant to share insights, which hampers continuous improvement and diminishes the team’s capacity to adapt. A leader connecting with their higher self can see feedback as a valuable personal and professional growth tool. They can model openness, encourage dialogue, and embrace constructive criticism to build a stronger, more resilient team.
3. Micromanaging Every Detail to Assert control
Ego-driven leaders tend to micromanage to assert control and meet their standards. This behaviour signals a lack of trust in the team’s abilities and stifles creativity and autonomy. Over time, it can lead to burnout, lower job satisfaction, and reduced productivity, as team members depend on direction rather than taking initiative. By releasing the need to control, leaders can connect with their higher self, empowering their teams instead. They can set clear expectations, provide guidance, and then step back, fostering an environment where employees feel trusted, supported, and motivated to deliver their best work.
4. Withholding Information to Maintain Power
Withholding information is a subtle way for leaders to maintain power and control. Being the gatekeeper of critical knowledge, they can manipulate situations to reinforce their authority. This creates a culture of confusion, dependency, and mistrust. Team members are left in the dark, which hinders their ability to perform effectively and undermines confidence. To act from their higher self, leaders should practice transparency and share information openly, creating a culture of trust and empowerment. Transparent communication encourages collaboration, aligns everyone toward common goals, and enhances decision-making at all levels.
5. Taking Credit for Others’ Work or Ideas
Leaders who take credit for their team’s ideas or work do so to reinforce their image of success and competence. This behaviour demoralises employees, discourages creativity, and stifles a culture of innovation. Employees who feel their contributions are unrecognised become disengaged and less likely to offer new ideas. Leaders can counteract this by consciously acknowledging and praising the efforts of their team members and recognising individual and group contributions. By honouring the achievements of others, leaders cultivate a positive environment where people feel appreciated and are motivated to contribute, driving overall success.
6. Not Admitting Mistakes or Flaws
An ego-driven leader will often refuse to acknowledge their mistakes or shortcomings, fearing it will undermine their authority. This “infallibility” stance can create a toxic culture where errors are hidden rather than addressed, and learning opportunities are missed. Teams may adopt a similar mindset, leading to decreased accountability and innovation. Leaders who connect with their higher self understand that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. Admitting errors and demonstrating a willingness to learn sets a powerful example, fostering an environment of trust, growth, and continuous improvement.
7. Avoiding Collaboration and Valuing Personal Opinion Over Others
Leaders driven by ego may avoid collaboration, convinced that their ideas and opinions are superior to others. This behaviour alienates team members and discourages diverse viewpoints, which limits the team’s problem-solving capabilities. A lack of collaboration also creates silos, hindering cross-functional efforts and stifling the organisation’s potential. Leaders can counteract this by embracing a mindset of inclusivity and valuing diverse perspectives. By promoting collaboration, they tap into the team’s collective intelligence, making more informed decisions and cultivating a culture of respect and partnership.
8. Refusing to Delegate, Believing No One Else is Capable
An ego-driven leader often believes they are the only ones who can execute tasks correctly, leading them to hoard responsibilities. This mindset leads to overwork for the leader, burnout, and an underutilised team that feels disempowered and undervalued. By refusing to delegate, leaders fail to develop their team’s skills and create a bottleneck in productivity. Leaders can shift to a higher-self approach by recognising the strengths and capabilities of their team members, trusting them with meaningful responsibilities, and supporting their growth. This builds a more capable, confident, and engaged team.
9. Being Unwilling to Apologise or Admit fault
When leaders refuse to apologise or admit fault, they convey an image of arrogance and infallibility. This behaviour damages relationships and trust within the team, as employees may feel that their leader lacks empathy and accountability. Over time, this erodes respect and creates a culture where mistakes are hidden rather than addressed. Leaders who act from their higher self understand the power of a genuine apology. By owning their mistakes and showing humility, they foster a culture of honesty, accountability, and mutual respect, strengthening team cohesion and performance.
10. Dismissing Contributions from Subordinates
Ego-driven leaders may dismiss suggestions and contributions from subordinates, perceiving them as less valuable than their input. This attitude stifles innovation, discourages open dialogue, and demoralises employees, who feel their insights are not appreciated. Over time, this can lead to disengagement and a lack of initiative. Leaders can address this by practising active listening and creating an environment where all voices are heard and respected. By valuing each person’s input, leaders cultivate a more dynamic and engaged team where everyone feels invested in the organisation’s success.
11. Setting Unrealistic Goals to Highlight Personal Ambition
Leaders driven by ego may set overly ambitious goals to showcase their own ambition and drive, not out of a desire for team growth. This can lead to burnout, stress, and demotivation among team members, who feel pressured to meet unattainable standards. Unrealistic expectations can also lead to compromised quality and increased turnover. By connecting with their higher self, leaders can set challenging yet achievable goals that inspire rather than overwhelm them. They can focus on sustainable growth, recognising and respecting the limits of their team while still pushing for excellence.
12. Using Authoritative Language and Posture to Intimidate
An ego-driven leader may use aggressive language, tone, or body posture to assert dominance and control over others. This creates a hostile work environment where fear overshadows collaboration and openness. Employees may comply outwardly but disengage internally, leading to a loss of morale and productivity. Leaders who aim to tap into their higher self can focus on using language and behaviour that inspire, support, and uplift. By practising empathy, speaking with respect, and fostering psychological safety, leaders create a culture of trust and mutual respect where people feel valued and motivated to contribute.
13. Ignoring the Well-Being of Employees for Personal Gains
Leaders focused on personal success may prioritise results over the well-being of their employees, pushing teams to work long hours or meet unrealistic expectations. This behaviour can lead to burnout, high turnover, and toxic work culture. Employees may feel exploited and disengaged, impacting overall performance and morale. By connecting with their higher self, leaders can prioritise the holistic well-being of their team, balancing results with empathy and support. This approach creates a more sustainable and positive work environment where employees are healthier, happier, and more productive.
14. Overpromising to Stakeholders to Appear More Competent
Ego-driven leaders may overpromise to stakeholders, aiming to appear more capable and ambitious. While this might initially impress, it often leads to unmet expectations, damaged credibility, and strained relationships. The pressure to deliver on overcommitted promises can also negatively impact the team, causing stress and burnout. Leaders can avoid this trap by tapping into their higher self and being realistic and transparent about what is achievable. By setting honest expectations and delivering consistently, they build trust, credibility, and a reputation for reliability.
15. Seeking External Validation and Approval Constantly
Leaders who seek constant validation may prioritise external opinions over internal values and integrity. This behavior can lead to inconsistent decision-making and a lack of authenticity, as they shift directions to gain approval. The team may feel confused, undervalued, and lose confidence in the leader’s vision. By connecting with their higher self, leaders can focus on intrinsic values, making decisions based on what is correct rather than what looks good. This creates a more stable, purpose-driven leadership approach that inspires loyalty and trust.
16. Making Decisions Based on Personal Preferences Rather Than Data or Input
Ego-driven leaders may base decisions on personal preferences rather than data, evidence, or team input. This can result in poor decision-making, as choices are not aligned with the organisation’s best interests. The team may feel sidelined and disempowered, leading to disengagement and lower morale. Leaders can counteract this by embracing a data-informed approach and actively seeking diverse perspectives. Leaders foster a more inclusive, strategic, and effective decision-making process by prioritising what is best for the organisation over personal biases.
17. Creating a Culture of Fear Instead of Trust
Leaders who’s ego is in charge, may use fear tactics to control their team, such as threats, punitive measures, or favouritism. While fear can drive compliance in the short term, it erodes trust, stifles creativity, and leads to high turnover. Employees are less likely to take risks or innovate in a fear-based culture. By connecting with their higher self, leaders can cultivate a culture of trust where people feel safe to express themselves and take
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