The earth school
When I was quite young, I asked my intuition why many people around me were sad. The answer was that we are all here to learn. We learn from both the good and bad things that happen to us. I’ve pretty much stuck with that belief all my life. When things happen which trigger negative emotions inside me, I very quickly get to the main question: What am I learning from this? There is something about understanding the impact on your self from the world around you. it doesn’t take away any pain, but it helps to put the pain in perspective. While I understood I was here to learn, it took me even longer to understand that I occasionally needed negatives to develop that learning.
Needing the negatives to develop
One of my favourite songs is Jason Mraz – 93 Million Miles from The Sun. The following verse from the song echos, the contention that we need negatives to develop, but couched in a different way.
“240 thousand miles from the moon
We’ve come a long way to belong here
To share this view of the night, a glorious night
Over the horizon is another bright sky
Oh, my, my, how beautiful
Oh, my irrefutable father
He told me, son sometimes it may seem dark
But the absence of the light is a necessary part”
Living in a world of contrast
We live in a world of contrast. If we didn’t experience sad, how would we appreciate happy? Without the experience of fear, how could we appreciate happy? Our world is made up of opposites, of positives and negatives. Our job is to face the negatives to develop the positive. The problem we mostly encounter is that negative experiences take up our focus and what we focus on tends to repeat. One of the most fundamental lessons when learning from contrast is to take what doesn’t work and focus instead, on what does.